..:: The Secrets To A Man’s Heart Revealed ::..

Photo is Property of Isabel Aurora

Photo is Property of Isabel Aurora

We all play the game, whether we know it or not. We might not know what the game is, or exactly how to play it, but it gets played… By men, women, boys and girls of all ages. From the school boy hitting on the girl he likes, to the grown woman who won’t call back in the 15 minutes she says she will but rather in a few hours to keep the guy guess. My point is, a lot of women want to know how to keep a guy from cheating and how to lock down a good man. Well its really simple, but it might be hard to actually accomplish.

Men don’t want much. Sure we claim to want the chick with the nicest body, longest hair, prettiest eyes and all that, but at the end of the day none of that is important. It’s not important because great looks fade over time. The real beauty is on the inside. I’ve written blogs on things to do to keep a man from cheating, things to keep the bedroom hot, and many more. Still despite all of that none of those things are important. Here is what is:

Be Supportive:
A lot of women have no idea what it takes to actually support a man. We don’t need your money, but why must a man pay for every thing? Why can’t she offer to help me out with my idea and make it better. Without criticizing a man and making him feel like he’s not smart? A woman should support a man and help make him better, but in today’s world our women will bring a man down faster than Katrina swallowed New Orleans. Support can from in a lot of different forms, you just gotta ask yourself are you truly supporting the one you love?

Be Understanding:
Few things are important to a man. We are simple creatures at heart. We care about sports, news and maybe our favorite television shows. Why can’t we watch the game on the big screen and you watch ANTM on the small tv? Even if it’s just for this one night. Why must a man explain the game to a female who has no real interest in it. A major problem when it comes to relationship is because we don’t bend for our lovers. Men and women. If we take a few moments to try to understand why something is important to our mate. Everything can be better.

Listen to me:
I hear everything that is said to me, but I don’t listen as much as I should. That is unless I actually want to listen. As humans we only remember a small percentage of what we hear, see, smell and touch, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t pay attention. Sometimes I just need an ear. An ear that won’t judge me, clown me or even give me any advice.

Be Available:
In the craziest of it all, sometime it is necessary to stop what we are doing and be there. I’ve been in plenty relationships where I was there for them, but she wasn’t there for me. Sometimes when it all gets too much to hold in we need a release then and there. Sure it’s good to not be available sometime, but other times you gotta make time, to deal with someone else’s issues. Men need someone who is able to enjoy their company when they want it.

Honesty:
Another key issue we face in relationships is that we aren’t honest with one another. Sure we may not lie about things, but do we always say what we feel in a constructive way? Or do we hold it in, keep it to ourselves and allow someone to head on a path of failure and destruction?

There are tons of nicks and nacks to love and live we just need to figure them out. We must remember that when it comes to love we need to take more time to think about the one we are involved with.

I know a lot of women will say they did this and more and still got cheated on. But at the end of the day what might work for one, will not work for another and if you feel like you couldn’t have done better you’re probably wrong. And if you feel like you did your all and you still got cheated on… It’s not you it’s him.

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..:: How To Play The Game So You Won’t Get Dumped ::..

Photo is Property of Isabel Aurora

Photo is Property of Isabel Aurora

We all play the game, whether we know it or not. We might not know what the game is, or exactly how to play it, but it gets played… By men, women, boys and girls of all ages. From the school boy hitting on the girl he likes, to the grown woman who won’t call back in the 15 minutes she says she will but rather in a few hours to keep the guy guess. My point is, a lot of women want to know how to keep a guy from cheating and how to lock down a good man. Well its really simple, but it might be hard to actually accomplish.

Men don’t want much. Sure we claim to want the chick with the nicest body, longest hair, prettiest eyes and all that, but at the end of the day none of that is important. It’s not important because great looks fade over time. The real beauty is on the inside. I’ve written blogs on things to do to keep a man from cheating, things to keep the bedroom hot, and many more. Still despite all of that none of those things are important. Here is what is:

Be Supportive:
A lot of women have no idea what it takes to actually support a man. We don’t need your money, but why must a man pay for every thing? Why can’t she offer to help me out with my idea and make it better. Without criticizing a man and making him feel like he’s not smart? A woman should support a man and help make him better, but in today’s world our women will bring a man down faster than Katrina swallowed New Orleans. Support can from in a lot of different forms, you just gotta ask yourself are you truly supporting the one you love?

Be Understanding:
Few things are important to a man. We are simple creatures at heart. We care about sports, news and maybe our favorite television shows. Why can’t we watch the game on the big screen and you watch ANTM on the small tv? Even if it’s just for this one night. Why must a man explain the game to a female who has no real interest in it. A major problem when it comes to relationship is because we don’t bend for our lovers. Men and women. If we take a few moments to try to understand why something is important to our mate. Everything can be better.

Listen to me:
I hear everything that is said to me, but I don’t listen as much as I should. That is unless I actually want to listen. As humans we only remember a small percentage of what we hear, see, smell and touch, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t pay attention. Sometimes I just need an ear. An ear that won’t judge me, clown me or even give me any advice.

Be Available:
In the craziest of it all, sometime it is necessary to stop what we are doing and be there. I’ve been in plenty relationships where I was there for them, but she wasn’t there for me. Sometimes when it all gets too much to hold in we need a release then and there. Sure it’s good to not be available sometime, but other times you gotta make time, to deal with someone else’s issues. Men need someone who is able to enjoy their company when they want it.

Honesty:
Another key issue we face in relationships is that we aren’t honest with one another. Sure we may not lie about things, but do we always say what we feel in a constructive way? Or do we hold it in, keep it to ourselves and allow someone to head on a path of failure and destruction?

There are tons of nicks and nacks to love and live we just need to figure them out. We must remember that when it comes to love we need to take more time to think about the one we are involved with.

I know a lot of women will say they did this and more and still got cheated on. But at the end of the day what might work for one, will not work for another and if you feel like you couldn’t have done better you’re probably wrong. And if you feel like you did your all and you still got cheated on… It’s not you it’s him.

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..:: The Obligations Of A Main Chick ::..

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In my travels I’ve came across a few women who believe the main chick, wife, or wifey shouldn’t do certain things in the bedroom. They feel like as an issue of respect, that the main should not perform oral or if they do they shouldn’t go all the way and take a drink. Do they have a point or is this theory totally nonsense.

A friend of mine came to me and asked me how can he get his girlfriend to be more active in bed. He stated that when they first met she was the biggest sexual intellectual, but now that she has the title she got lazy. She no longer feels like she needs to do the more taboo things, that helped him fall in love with her. Sadly there are a lot of women like this, but there are men like this too, men who run to “jump offs” to do nasty things, but then they say they will not allow their wifey to give dome, or do it outside and stuff like that. In my opinion I feel like the main chick should be the one you do these things with. I believe that it’s her duty to be his own personal freak in the bedroom, in the streets and do the things he desires. Sex is an endless arena of things to do, why limit your self because you now have a title?

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What are your thoughts on this topic? Do you go all out or do you feel like a main chick shouldn’t be asked or requested to do certain things?

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Is A Big Booty Really That Important…

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Tyra Banks had two guests on her show recently who almost died trying to get injections to make their booties look bigger. Both of the ladies went to the same lady who was giving butt shots to women in their area. I watched this and find it extremely ridiculous.

What ever happen to good ole squats? Hell, I can even think of a few sexual positions that I heard will help put a little pump in the bump. No pun

SMH…

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..:: The Complex Mind Of A Heartbroken Man ::..

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I can’t help but feel bad for Chris Brown, because I know he’s hurting because he lost his boo. Unlike a woman a man can not deal with being heartbroken. One gossip sites report

The singer appeared depressed and desolate as he stared blankly in the back seat of a car. Brown has been charged with assault and making criminal threats after an alleged bust-up with RIHANNA last month. His bleak mood comes after yesterday’s reports he and Rihanna are “taking a break” from their relationship, with Brown busy recording music in California and the pop beauty hitting the social scene with pals.

Men go through a bunch of different feelings when we are heartbroken. Which are as followed

Back Together – We want to get back together, so we end up calling a bit more than we should, and the female won’t take our calls or give us logical explanation as to why we can’t get back together. Wasn’t our love stronger than needing a break?

Revenge – There comes a point when we want you to feel the same pain we are feeling because even though you might be hurt to us it looks like you’re having the time of your life. We start to think so what I cheat, I was f*cking I was going to get right back. So we think maybe we should embarrass her, or sleep with her friend.

Many Women – Then eventually we decide we are just going to be the biggest male whore on the planet because since this woman hurt us it’s now women ain’t sh*t but hoes and tricks. Sure the logic is jaded, but my heart is torn into pieces and we can’t think straight.

So at the end of the day you have another man on a mission to ruin some unexpected woman all because his ex girl wouldn’t pick up the phone and talk to him because HE cheated on her. And to a man… somehow this all makes sense.

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..:: Is Your Girl On The Downlow? ::..

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We all heard about the epidemic running wild across the country. Men on the DL, but there is a bigger issue that secretly just as big. Women on the down low. Secretly there are tons of women who like women, want to be with women and are with women.

As previously I wrote I won’t allow a woman to steal my woman, it’s even worst when you’re woman is creeping with another woman. It’s damn near impossible to find out as well, because nowadays you have these lipstick lesbians. So a guy will sit there in his apartment staring at his girlfriend’s friend’s butt, and behind his back she’s digging a nine incher into his girl. A 9 incher that doesn’t go limp at that.

One of my exes had this friend that she would talk to all the time, at times when I would attempt to call her, or speak to her, she would simply say I’m on the phone w/ “Kesha” I’ll call you back in a few. No problem right? Until that day Kesha showed up at my house. Kesha was more hardcore than me. Fresh caesar, colorful polo, tims, sagging jeans and a rainbow bracelet. My heart dropped. My girl never let on that she was gay.

Then it was the athletic woman I dealt with, she was also a bit on the boyish side. I thought it was a faze. She was young, a college freshman, so I thought maybe she didn’t go through her girl stage yet. I mean she loved sex, she would even be hungry for it. She also loved to show off her body, so daily pics of her sexy frame would constantly land in my inbox. I love it, and I never stopped to think that maybe she was on the DL.

That is until we grew up and later became facebook friends. It seemed like she was in some sort of secret cult of beautiful women who liked to dress like men. It blew my mind when it hit me that I might have been w/ a lesbian, but then I come to find out she had a baby. So is she or isn’t she? I still have no clue.

It seems like women have created the perfect environment to be on the DL and not have anyone know. Fast forward to the girl at my old job. As I mentioned before I tried to holla at this girl for almost a year before someone told me she liked girls like I do. In my ignorance I thought so what… but you can’t turn a lesbian. Now some women are just confused, but at the end of the day. The Power of the… is way stronger than anything a man can come up with. How can you compete with a person who has access to the equipment 24 hours a day?

Recently I even had a conversation with one of my homegirls who told me she went through something Mo, wrote about on my site. She thinks she best friend did her while she was passed out drunk. My friend had one too many drinks and her friend offered her house. Long story short my home girl woke up in bed with her friend w/ a long t-shirt and no panties on and no memory of how she got there. After a quick run back into her memory, too many offers to brush her hair, too much touching and too many come ons on drunk nights. The two of them are no longer friends.

Do you think DL women are a big problem? Have you ever been hit on by a woman? Would you have a threesome w/ your man and another woman?

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Taste has truly left the building

(U.S.  (L-R) Singer Chri...Image by Getty Images via Daylife


Domestic Violence is NEVER okay. Never. A woman has no business hitting a man unprovoked, and a man should likewise realize his strength and always chose to leave a threatening situation. This week the blogs and the news outlets are BLAZING with the news of the latest Chris Brown/Rhianna situation. I don’t have to link it for you, you already know by now. It has sparked some interesting conversations and some that are completely ruining my hope for humanity.

A couple of things. This is completely unacceptable and tasteless. This is the first thing that is bothering me. Domestic violence is not funny. The jokes and the silly comments are too much. I can’t believe that because they are celebrities people feel like they have the right to poke fun and be rude. if it was your sister or your son and the details were not out yet, I’m sure you wouldn’t be so quick to “haha”.
Why do we feel like this is any of our business? I understand that their lives are in the public and are open to criticisms but at what point do we the people fall back? We are grown enough to know when to mind our own business. The entire blogosphere is calling for full disclosure on this situation like they have a personal stake in it. I sincerely hope that this situation isn’t what we all seem to be hearing, but to be honest, no matter what the details are it’s none of my business. If Chris Brown did everything that he is being viciously accused of, I pray that he gets help, and since he is a public figure, I hope that he goes out of his way to shine light on this issue and educate himself as well as the public on how to stop it. As for Rhianna, I pray that she too gets help and strength and protection from this horrible media shower she has found herself in. These are people’s LIVES.
Here’s the deal, domestic violence is a serious serious issue. No matter who is involved there should be fair and balanced treatment given. We have NO CLUE what happened. We can’t hang Chris Brown and we can’t turn Rhianna into a STD giving slut. I mean really people? Has evolution turned us back into cavemen? Are we unable to put ourselves in other people’s shoes? Treat others as you would have them treat you ring a bell? I guess not. This whole fiasco has shown me that people can be shallow, tacky, and outright vicious. I’ve also discovered that there are quite a few people who think there are several justifiable reasons for violence against the opposite sex, either way. That to me has been the most shocking. It’s such a shame. We have to do better. We celebrated President Obama‘s win and got on our high horses and claimed that Change was finally here. Then at the first opportunity we went back to the bottom of the barrel. Crabs. I tell you.
JG*
P.S. I don’t mean to be condescending. I will not deny the high level of interest in this story for myself even. What I can’t stand is how low we are stooping to aid in the downfall of both of these artists before we even know the whole story. Once the details are released I hope that the appropriate measures are taken LEGALLY and PERSONALLY to ensure this never happens again.

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Taste has truly left the building

NEW YORK - AUGUST 7:  (U.S.  (L-R) Singer Chri...Image by Getty Images via Daylife

Domestic Violence is NEVER okay. Never. A woman has no business hitting a man unprovoked, and a man should likewise realize his strength and always chose to leave a threatening situation. This week the blogs and the news outlets are BLAZING with the news of the latest Chris Brown/Rhianna situation. I don’t have to link it for you, you already know by now. It has sparked some interesting conversations and some that are completely ruining my hope for humanity.

A couple of things. This is completely unacceptable and tasteless. This is the first thing that is bothering me. Domestic violence is not funny. The jokes and the silly comments are too much. I can’t believe that because they are celebrities people feel like they have the right to poke fun and be rude. if it was your sister or your son and the details were not out yet, I’m sure you wouldn’t be so quick to “haha”.
Why do we feel like this is any of our business? I understand that their lives are in the public and are open to criticisms but at what point do we the people fall back? We are grown enough to know when to mind our own business. The entire blogosphere is calling for full disclosure on this situation like they have a personal stake in it. I sincerely hope that this situation isn’t what we all seem to be hearing, but to be honest, no matter what the details are it’s none of my business. If Chris Brown did everything that he is being viciously accused of, I pray that he gets help, and since he is a public figure, I hope that he goes out of his way to shine light on this issue and educate himself as well as the public on how to stop it. As for Rhianna, I pray that she too gets help and strength and protection from this horrible media shower she has found herself in. These are people’s LIVES.
Here’s the deal, domestic violence is a serious serious issue. No matter who is involved there should be fair and balanced treatment given. We have NO CLUE what happened. We can’t hang Chris Brown and we can’t turn Rhianna into a STD giving slut. I mean really people? Has evolution turned us back into cavemen? Are we unable to put ourselves in other people’s shoes? Treat others as you would have them treat you ring a bell? I guess not. This whole fiasco has shown me that people can be shallow, tacky, and outright vicious. I’ve also discovered that there are quite a few people who think there are several justifiable reasons for violence against the opposite sex, either way. That to me has been the most shocking. It’s such a shame. We have to do better. We celebrated President Obama‘s win and got on our high horses and claimed that Change was finally here. Then at the first opportunity we went back to the bottom of the barrel. Crabs. I tell you.
JG*
P.S. I don’t mean to be condescending. I will not deny the high level of interest in this story for myself even. What I can’t stand is how low we are stooping to aid in the downfall of both of these artists before we even know the whole story. Once the details are released I hope that the appropriate measures are taken LEGALLY and PERSONALLY to ensure this never happens again.

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Relationship – Happy Being "The Other Women."


Jimmie Fair from The Fair Response made this video post in response after reading the post from necolebitchie.com .

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MSNBC.com – The other woman speaks: ‘Men don’t leave!’


Complex.com – Diddy’s Dilemma: Cassie Vs. Kim Porter

Who Is The Other Woman? Understanding Women Involved With A Committed Partner


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